Crazy Beautiful Life
Thursday 30 March 2017
The Birdie Song
Thursday 16 March 2017
Missing Mum
Monday 13 March 2017
Trig Point Reflections
The sea, beautiful and calm, the setting sun reflecting on the water. The mountains in the distance, shrouded by cloud on their snow covered summits. The coast stretching out as far as my eyes can see. Two girls playing in the distance who like Thom have lost a parent. Another person who has seen what I've seen and felt what I've felt is close by. The connection between us and on a level that only two people who've witnessed the death of the one closest to you can feel. The friendship, the love, the empathy for each other and the paths walked to reach this point right now. the tears, the laughter and the confusion of all of this shared between us. The smiles from strangers walking by not knowing the history but smiling at people embracing life fully. At that moment I'm on my own sat on top of the Trig point. Thoughts go to Claire and how much she would love this place. Feeling sorrow that Claire can't see this with her own beautiful green eyes and that I can't share the beauty I can see right now with her. I also wish Thom was here to see this place and there is a guilt that he's not also here. I will bring him here and share it with him.....a very special way to end the weekend. Thank you for sharing it with me. I know it is also a special place full of memories for you also.......x
Thursday 23 February 2017
Taking Thom back to Robin Hoods Bay
Last weekend we returned to RHB. It's the first time Thom has been back since we scattered Claire's ashes back in Dec 2014. I went with a close friend and her girls. To see how big Thom is now compared to how little he was back then made me realise how much time has passed and I couldn't help reflect on how much we've done in the time in between and how proud of what we've done. We went to the beach and Nia said look at the sun Rich....and and there was a rainbow around it as it was setting. I'd not seen that before and to see it there was a very special moment.
Tuesday 7 February 2017
I miss you....I miss us....I miss our family.
Sunday 22 January 2017
2017
Life is moving forwards and coming back. We can cope with this life now and as a unit Thom and I are doing this. He's thriving at school and I'm working well now at home balancing all that comes with being a single parent and working full time and having pets. It's full on but still I find time to ride and get out. You'd think it would be a positive thing and yes of course it is but it also just makes me miss Claire more. Grief is still there..it hasn't gone and now I know it never really will. Last week I could feel an acceptance of it all going on and these past 2 days have been full of tears again. Some days and weeks are easier and some are just like she died yesterday. They still shock when they hit but on the whole I'm starting to manage it better. I've always been an emotional guy and this is no exception. It's 27 months today since Claire died. This morning I cried as it dawned on me again that it actually happened and that she won't ever come back....that is so tough to even comprehend. 27 months after losing your wife, best friend, mum to your child and inspiration isn't long and it's still early days so this is the way it'll be for a while yet I'm sure. 2017 has some exciting plans already in it and life is coming back. I don't feel like I'm avoiding stuff now by being busy or getting into relationships and I'm feeling all that I need to. Life coming back is a scary thing as it feels longer since I saw and felt Claire next to me and it means we are getting used to this life without her. It's still unbelievable that's she's gone sometimes. We're living fully and I am becoming a person who I wouldn't of otherwise of become if it hadn't of happened and I got pushed into this life. Aspects of it I love and enjoy but again that's hard as it feels it should be Claire doing these things if things were different. People I've met and places I've been and experiences all different from what may of been before. It's still a mind bender and I guess it always will be.